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Kay D. Call and Second Chances: New Family

01 Apr

A wonderful chapter in Dad’s life began when he met Muriel McHugh.

Muriel and Kay Call

Muriel and Kay Call

In 1983, Kay D. Call went to a single adults function in Redmond, Oregon.  Muriel McHugh was reporting on the LDS mission to New York City she had just returned from.  Dad was impressed, and wrote down her name, as he heard it.  It took him a while to find her, because there wasn’t a “McCue” in the the phone book. But fortunately, they did get together, and as Dad says, “We dated for several months and we married on August 30, 1985 in the Boise Temple.”

Wedding Day 1985 Boise, Idaho Temple

Wedding Day 1985 Boise, Idaho Temple

Can you tell how happy they are here?

Married for Eternity

Married for Eternity

Grandma Muriel  shows her new ring to admiring grandchildren.

Grandma Muriel shows her new ring to admiring grandchildren.

Oh!  Speaking of Grandchildren, did I mention that by marrying Muriel, Dad got a ready-made family?  Muriel’s six children, their spouses and children, and it goes on an on until this day.

Muriel and Kay with several grandkids on the Boise Temple grounds on their wedding day

Muriel and Kay with several grandkids on the Boise Temple grounds on their wedding day

Here’s how a few of the grandkids looked in 1985.

Meanwhile, Back at the Old Family….

Dad’s mother and Father, who had been living in Metolius for years, had moved to central Idaho to be near Dad’s sister Leda.

Reuben and Mona Call, around 1976, when they lived in Central Oregon

Reuben and Mona Call, around 1976, when they lived in Central Oregon

Early in 1986, Dad’s mother, Mona, died.  She had been ill for a long time, and I had watched Grandpa care so tenderly for her, in a way that reminded me of the tender care my Dad had given my Mom for so many years.

In July of 1986, my younger daughter, Julia Christine was born.  Dad drove with my sister Kathy from Metolius to Salt Lake City to greet the little red haired baby girl.

Grandpa Kay comforts newborn Julia Christine

Grandpa Kay comforts newborn Julia Christine

Things seem to be going a little better, thanks to Grandpa

Things seem to be going a little better, thanks to Grandpa

And Aunt Kathy has the knack, too

And Aunt Kathy has the knack, too

The Metolius, Oregon Home

Dad writes about the home he made with Muriel, “Muriel and I lived in Metolius for 18 years.  We had a nice sized home and a large yard which included my vegetable garden which kept me busy and supplied us and many of our friends and neighbors.  There were more than 30 trees and a huge lawn.  I build two sheds to hold miscellaneous garden and other storage items.”

One of those sheds, with a little wood put by for the wood stove.

One of those sheds, with a little wood put by for the wood stove.

“Muriel was in charge of the flower beds, of which we had many.”

Rock-garden flower beds, with  Dad's vegetable garden in the back, and growing grandchildren in the mix

Rock-garden flower beds, with Dad’s vegetable garden in the back, and growing grandchildren in the mix

“We had a deck built across the back of our house where we could sit and enjoy the peace and queit and beauty of our yard and enjoy the company of our family and friends.”

Four-year-old Julia enjoys the back yard and the path from the deck

Four-year-old Julia enjoys the back yard and the path from the deck

Our daughters had the opportunity to visit Grandpa Kay and Grandma Muriel a few times.  Fortunately, it was always in the summer.  I love these pictures Muriel took of Dad and my girls at the coast.

Julia, Kay and Linda picnic at the Oregon Coast

Julia, Kay and Linda picnic at the Oregon Coast

Dad manages to exercise and recline at the same time!

Dad manages to exercise and recline at the same time!

Building sandcastles with Julia

Building sandcastles with Julia

Linda and Julia get the hang of sandcastle building, and pose for Grandma

Linda and Julia get the hang of sandcastle building, and pose for Grandma

You'd think Julia and Linda were getting along!  Well, with Grandma and Grandpa, I hear they did.

You’d think Julia and Linda were getting along! Well, with Grandma and Grandpa, I hear they did.

Grandpa Kay in Oregon with just a couple of his other grandchildren

Rylie and Shea are just a couple of the other grandchildren Kay loved to have around

Dealing with Loss Again

Kathy’s illness had been getting progressively worse.  My father watched her motor skills deteriorate, and testing confirmed his fear:  in addition to her cerebral palsy, she had inherited our mother’s disease, which led to the chronic, progressive deterioration of her central nervous system. Dad writes, “She was very brave, and never complained about her health.”  She passed away in a nursing home in  January of 1994.  His father, Reuben, had died in 1990.

Move to Pocatello

Dad wrote in his life history, “In 2001 we finally realized the yard work was too much for us, so we had a home built in Pocatello [Chubbuck] where four of Muriel’s children (and many grandchildren) live.  It was hard for us to give up our home and friends in Oregon, but our yard is much smaller here and we are again busy with Church activities.  Muriel’s daughter, Terrilee, lives next door and has been a great help to us.  We love having her colse to watch over us.”  

Terrilee is the daughter in the middle.  Her son is the college gradudate, and Muriel and Dad are the proud grandparents

Terrilee is the daughter in the middle. Her son is the college gradudate, and Muriel and Dad are the proud grandparents

The above picture was probably taken before they moved to Chubbuck, but it’s the only picture I have of Terrilee. (Except for her baby pictures, which I’m afraid belong in a different post!)

Collin, Diane, Muriel and Kay.

Collin, Diane, Muriel and Kay.

I can’t tell you when or where this picture of Collin and Diane was taken with Muriel and Dad.  Collin?  Diane?  Let me know in the comments!

Muriel and Kay, Christmas 2004 -- In their 20th year of marriage

Muriel and Kay, Christmas 2001

In June of 2003, Julia and Linda visit Grandpa and Grandma Call in the Chubbuck badk yard

In June of 2003, Julia and Linda visit Grandpa and Grandma Call in the Chubbuck back yard

Muriel, Julia, Linda and Susan on the same trip -- My 50th birthday

Muriel, Julia, Linda, Susan and Kay on the same trip — My 50th birthday

Kay and Muriel display a present for Grandma's birthday, July 2003

Kay and Muriel display a present for Grandma’s birthday, July 2003

Birthday Cake for Muriel, July 2003

Birthday Cake for Muriel, July 2003

Help me, McHughs -- is this a family reunion?

Help me, McHughs — is this a family reunion?

Surely this is a family reunion!

Surely this is a family reunion!

Anybody who wants to be identified, leave a comment and give me the data!

This one was captioned, "Boy, did Kay love those pancakes!"

This one was captioned, “Boy, did Kay love those pancakes!”

To the right, you can see Burt and Kelly Peterson, and more of the family.

Dad at home in Chubbuck.  Where Muriel was, was his home.

Dad at home in Chubbuck. Where Muriel was, was his home.

KD and Muriel Call new home in Chubbuck

Kay, Bishop Fred Zundel and Muriel at a Paradise Ward Dinner, not long before Muriel's passing

Kay, Bishop Fred Zundel and Muriel at a Paradise Ward Dinner, not long before Muriel’s passing

Kay and Muriel at Paradise Ward Dinner Christmas 2010 or Jan 2011

The writing on the back of these photos says, “Spaghetti dinner fundraiser – January 2011”  I was confused by the “Christmas Decorations” in the background, but then I realized that there is a silent auction at these fundraisers, and someone might have donated Christmas decorations.

In any case, this is one of the last photos we have of Dad and Muriel together.  In March 2011, just before my Dad’s 86th birthday, Muriel passed away.

I was overwhelmed at the funeral by the love the family showed for my father.  It was not until then, that I realized they were my family, too.

The Prodigal Daughter

My husband Marc and I have come to make our home with Dad in Chubbuck.  We have only been here four months, but Dad has opened his heart and home to help us and it is a joy to be with him.

Son-in-law Marc Hutchison and Kay D. Call at Paradise Ward

Son-in-law Marc Hutchison and Kay D. Call at Paradise Ward

Dad is beloved “Brother Call” to everyone in the Paradise Ward in Chubbuck.  The outpouring of affection from family and friends — especially old friends of mine from Oregon who remember my wonderful father — has made this a happy birthday for him.

I wanted this tribute to him, these four posts on the four Sundays in March, to be his birthday present from me to him.  But it has been much more a gift to me.  It has been a joy to share these pictures, and to interview him about his life before I came into it.

To all of Kay D. Call’s loved ones, please enjoy.  And please leave comments!

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3 responses to “Kay D. Call and Second Chances: New Family

  1. Suzanne Schmidt

    April 1, 2013 at 4:35 am

    Sue, What a beautiful tribute to your Father. I so much enjoyed reading about him and your family. I remember so many of the times you talked about. I laughed, I cried, and just smiled most of the way through your photos and story. I can imagine how much your dad enjoyed his life in pictures and story. I know I’m not part of your biological family but our church family. Your dad was a big part of my life when in Madras/Metolius. He always made me feel like part of the family with his loving words. I remember my Mom and Dad speaking so highly of him. When he and Muriel got together mom and her became such good friends. She was a joy to be around and I remember her in Primary and the love she showed to those children. They loved her right back. Your Dad can also be very proud of you and the great daughter you are. Again, what a special tribute for your Dad. Love to you and your family!! Suzanne

     
    • Susan Call Hutchison

      April 1, 2013 at 4:51 pm

      Thank you so much, Suzanne for this comment. You absolutely belong in our family memories! I found a picture of you I’ll post on Facebook! Love, Sue

       
  2. Susan Call Hutchison

    July 19, 2014 at 8:05 pm

    I just reviewed this and realized that the picture of Kathy holding the baby is NOT Julia in 1986. That is Linda in 1979. The couch and paneling are from our basement home in Price, Utah. Sorry for any confusion!

     

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